When a Wife Should Push the Man Aside and Play the Head

When a Wife Should Push the Man Aside and Play the Head

At a lodging place on the way, the LORD met Moses] and was about to kill him. But Zipporah took a flint knife, cut off her son’s foreskin and touched Moses feet with it. “Surely you are a bridegroom of blood to me,” she said. So the LORD let him alone. (At that time she said “bridegroom of blood,” referring to circumcision. Ex 4:24-26

How many of us have read the play, OUR HUSBAND HAS GONE MAD AGAIN, By Ola Rotimi? The play focused on a polygamous family where the husband did some stupid things in his political ambition. All the wives were taught to always submit to him because of culture, in the reality his negative attitude was putting the family in jeopardy. This was until he married an educated woman who began to teach the other women how to take their destiny in their hands and make a living for themselves.

Honestly this play paints the gory image of what is happening in some families, men believe that they are the head and rightly so, but there are occasions when the choices of the men are doing great harm to the family; not only to the general family but to the man himself.

In our text today, Moses was being negligent and that slothful attitude was going to ruin not only his own life but turn the word of God to be of no effect. If Moses died at that point Zipporah and her children will be lost in a battle they never prepared for. They had already left the comfort of her father’s home and I am bold to add that they would have sold up their assets as they ventured into the next level of God’s assignment for them.

What was the issue? Zipporah was told by Moses that the God to whom he belonged had a covenant with his race that required that every male child should be circumcised at the age of eight days.

Zipporah - So, honey when will you do it?

Moses – I will do it Tomorrow. I tried to reach the man that sells the flint knife but his number was not going.

Moses comes back from work and Zipporah reminds him but he replies, “I will do it later, I am tired now?

Two weeks later he comes home and shares an account of how he met the God of his fathers and how He instructed him about the new ministry they were to start.

Zipporah - Honey, this means we need to circumcise Junior right away

Moses - Let me share the story with your father first and hear what he has to say. Then I will do it

A month after they are packing to move to Egypt where they have to confront all the gods of Egypt in open show of superior power.

Zipporah - Honey, this level of ministry will be demanding, why not you circumcise Junior now so we give no ground to the devil?

Moses - Baby Zip, thanks for reminding me but you can see that if we circumcise him now, we have to wait for another month before we can move because the child will be in pains. So let’s move on and before we start sharing the fliers for our first crusade I will do it.

I have always stated that God is not going to help us run our ministry but is calling us to do His business. No one is indispensible to God; He is a God of purpose and has His standards. That God called you does not mean that He is stuck with you. God prepared to defend the covenant between Him and Abraham and the first enemy of that covenant God could find is no one but the one He sent and so …. the LORD met Moses and was about to kill him

In the culture they came from, it was the duty of the man to circumcise the son, but if Zipporah waited for this head to play the head then the family is doomed, so Zipporah played the head because that was the only way she could save her home and salvage the glorious destiny that was at the brink.

The bible made it very clear that wives should submit to their husbands in all things but thank God I am a man, so male folks will not see me as saying what I do not understand; we men can be stupid at times and it is sad to say that anointed men are not any different. Let me praise my wife again; a lady once said in my hearing that she wished her husband behaved like me. I giggled from the background when my wife said to her, “Things are not always the way we see it”. I can bet that lady will not endure me for a year. How many times have I taken decisions that put my family in financial embarrassment in my obsession to help “Poor and Needy”? There are occasions all I have to thank is my wife who technically blocked a decision I made at impulse, and oh boy, I do that often.

There is this account also when Nabal the husband of Abigail let loose his tongue to abuse a warlord and general who had killed giants and conquered great armies of many nations. Against common sense Nabal called David a runaway slave and sat down to drink himself to stupor. Thank God a servant heard him and reported to Abigail. Again the nom demanded that Abigail should consult the head of the family before giving such elaborate gifts to David and his men, especially because her husband had said NO earlier. But if she obeyed the rules her whole family and estate would have been consumed in the wrath of David and his four hundred deadly and hungry army. She went ahead to save her family and then explained later to her husband. (1 Sam25)

Pilate would have gone to the judgment throne from his girl friend’s house, otherwise, why was it that his wife could not tell him her dream before he left the house? Who knows of how many days he had not reached the house, but it is obvious he respected his wife’s spirituality and her ability to receive messages from her dream. Some women will be grinding in anger and then Plate will soil his hands with the righteous blood of Jesus. Some theologians won’t accept this, but the fact is that Pilate and his home was innocent of Jesus’ blood because he washed his hand before Jesus was killed.

Woman, I advise you to submit to your husband in all things because God is the head of the man and man is the head of the woman, but when you are sure “Oga” is about to ruin himself and the entire family, play the head.

Become ZIPPORAH and ABIGAIL, you can explain later.

Emma your brother @PNUR

Primary Reason for Marriage is not LOVE

The Primary Reason for marriage is not LOVE

Emphasis Gen. 2

 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Gen. 2:18

Like most other persons I used to believe that the primary reason for marriage is to have somebody I love and that I will enjoy the rest of my life with. But going through the account of the first instituted marriage, I discovered that LOVE was never mentioned when God was thinking of getting a wife for Adam. I don’t mean to say that Adam never loved Eve; I just mean to point out that LOVE was not the issue why God felt that Adam needed a wife.

In fact, the word wife was not used in the account in Genesis chapter 2, but rather HELPER. I feel then that we make a mistake when we set our main condition for a life partner as LOVE

God created the whole universal and the earth and all other animals; as is His habit He made things based on the use they will serve. Hence there is no useless thing in all creation. Man was not created to enjoy creation; he was created to oversee the works of God. His assignment was not concealed to him and they included watching over all other created things, taking care of the garden and naming the animals God had created.

It was after stating the job definition of man that God felt that this job will be too much for man. God did not make woman to give man sexual satisfaction and other forms of romance. The point I am making here is that women make mistake when they argue that the reason their husband go after other women is because of sex. I agree that sex is one of the things that happen in man and woman relationship, but sex is not the main reason for it. He is a foolish man who follows the direction of his genital erection and sorry to say, there are many men like that. I agree that women should satisfy sexual urge but if you set out looking for sexual satisfaction in marriage, you will never have a settled home.

I remember a son in the Lord of mine once asked my wife and I to pray and introduce a life partner for him. His reason for rejecting the girl we introduced is that she did not look sexy enough. He went ahead to get himself a sexy wife. Well, he is still enjoying sex and perhaps has learned the lesson I am pointing out here, by experience.

The reason for marriage is RESPONSIBILITY; the woman was to come in and help the man with his responsibility. If a woman is not fit to help a man with the responsibility to become what God has made him to be, then she is not a marriage material.

On the other hand, when a man asks a woman’s hand in marriage, she should not be concerned as to whether he is rich or poor. That will be turning attention to distraction. She should look out if this man has responsibility on him. Is this man a person on assignment? What is he living for? Not a question of if he has a job or not. Those can change but the permanent thing is his purpose for living.

Some women have followed men whom they feel are rich, within three years all the wealth was gone. Some have followed those who are influential but things changed, and the man loses his influence. Yet, there are those who followed “Nobodys” and these failures are champions today.

When a woman is going into a marriage she should understand that she is taking up a great task; the task of KING-MAKER and DESTINY helper. She should also understand that she cannot support what does not exist. If there is nothing in the man’s life to look up to as assignment, then pray that he discovers his assignment before accepting his hand in marriage.

LOVE is necessary in marriage but LOVE was the not why God instituted marriage. Marriage was instituted to enable Man fulfill his assignment.

Emma your brother @PNUR

When to Stop fighting

When you must stop fighting

Emphasis 1 Kings 22

Now a certain man drew a bow at random, and struck the king of Israel between the joints of his armor. So he said to the driver of his chariot, “Turn around and take me out of the battle, for I am wounded.” 1Kgs22:34

That you won…..

The above scripture is from a popular bible account; it may interest you to note that even the worst of the kings of Israel lost only one battle. Ahab, in spite of his negative life and bad records, lost only one battle. Here is another lesson; the fact that you won or succeeded in that venture does not automatically mean that God is happy with the way you go about things.

The man of God is not in a contest with you

On the faithful day of the above account, he was warned by a genuine servant of God not to venture into that battle, he was sure that the man of God was saying the word of God but his ego was more important to him. If he failed to go to that war, some people will think the man of God has won. I have met people who feel I am in a contest with them. A lady once told me, “Ok, you go ahead and pray and we go ahead and pray. Let’s see whose prayer God will answer”.

Prayer only makes a difference if….

That brings us to the point I have mentioned in one of my writings; God does not just sit down in heaven waiting for us to pray so He will answer. God answers prayers that agree with His purpose. If the prayer does not agree with His purpose, He will not grant it. Shouting can help at times, night vigils can help at times, sowing seed of faith can help at times, fasting too, but note that all these are useless if you are turned against God’s purpose for your life and ministry.

Change of place does not always mean change of God

On the other hand, some quarrel with pastor of one church and then move on to work under pastor of another church. This too is stupid if the reason you left that church is because they tried to check your negative life-style. All your service in the new church is useless because the two churches and their pastors belong to the same God.

Correct but late

In our text, Ahab instructed his servants to take him out of the battle because he had been wounded. I feel that this instruction was rather too late. Ahab got involved in idolatry; men of God warned him but he persisted. Ahab killed some prophets of God, he was warned but he persisted. Before his very eyes Elijah shut the heavens and while he watched he prayed and rain came after three years, Ahab did not turn. Ahab killed Neborth and took his vine yard, God complained, he repented but did not turn from his sin by returning the land.

Prophet of his choice

In God’s forbearance, he was assigned a prophet to stand as a watchman over his government and to warn him about the consequence of his negative ways, but Ahab branded the prophet an enemy. Like some people today, he chose for himself the kind of prophets he wanted to hear, built “church auditorium” for them and sponsored their TV and Cable ministries. Each time he wanted to hear something “spiritual” he will gather these “prophets” and organize prayer meetings and rallies and then he will have a good time.

It surprises me that somebody will travel from Nigeria to South Africa to hear the word of God from Prophet Bushri while in enmity with his father in the Lord. It shocks me that somebody will travel from Cameroon to seek God with Prophet T B Joshua while he does not exchange mere greetings with the one that ordained him a pastor. While I have nothing with these great servants of God, I consider it foolishness for the one seeking blessing and word from God

Divine intervention still

Just like God often does for us because according to the bible, God does not delight in the death of sinners but continues to seek ways to get our attention, so we can return to Him; God stirred the heart of a friend of king Ahab who compelled Ahab to invite a true servant of God. It is interesting to note that Ahab knew that this man was the only true man of God in the land

Jehoshaphat said, “Is there not still a prophet of the LORD here, that we may inquire of [b]Him?”

8 So the king of Israel said to Jehoshaphat, “There is still one man, Micaiah the son of Imlah, by whom we may inquire of the LORD; but I hate him, because he does not prophesy good concerning me, but evil.” Verse 7-8

Prophet prophesy for me

Ahab knew that Micaiah was genuine and the other four hundred false but he wanted somebody who will make positive declaration over him. Of what use is positive declaration that will amount to nothing?

That was when Ahab should have quitted the battle but he kept fighting, he even put the genuine prophet in prison and boasted that he will come back alive.

How do you see the prophets or pastors of God? Do you see them as people with mystic powers that can bring good luck or as mere men presenting God’s word to you? Unfortunately today, people see men of God as commanders that tell God what He must do. This is obvious when we face in directions that God will not accept and yet you are praying for His favor. No man of God commands God or pushes Him around; don’t mind the empty words of some modern day magicians parading as prophets. That is why they have to create counterfeit fire from heaven and pay fake people to testify to the miracles in their ministries. God listens to His servants but He only grants what is within His will.

Ahab had his game plan

What were his game plans? He will rather set up his friend, King Jehoshaphat. Jehoshaphat is study for another day; his was stupidity of the highest level. If you meet a man who is not faithful to God, he will not be faithful to you.

Game plan number two, Ahab planned to go into the battle in disguise so that people will not recognize him.

Caught by curse

As you read this, what comes to your mind? Don’t wait until it is too late. The arrow that caught Ahab was not targeted but the curse of the man of God he put in the prison guided the arrow to Ahab’s heart.

Don’t wait until the curse ruins your future before you stop fighting. Are there issues in your life that needs urgent correction? Are presently in a battle you have no business fighting?

This calls for sober reflection

Emma your brother @PNUR