When a Wife Should Push the Man Aside and Play the Head
At a lodging place on the way, the LORD met Moses] and was about to kill him. But Zipporah took a flint knife, cut off her son’s foreskin and touched Moses feet with it. “Surely you are a bridegroom of blood to me,” she said. So the LORD let him alone. (At that time she said “bridegroom of blood,” referring to circumcision. Ex 4:24-26
How many of us have read the play, OUR HUSBAND HAS GONE MAD AGAIN, By Ola Rotimi? The play focused on a polygamous family where the husband did some stupid things in his political ambition. All the wives were taught to always submit to him because of culture, in the reality his negative attitude was putting the family in jeopardy. This was until he married an educated woman who began to teach the other women how to take their destiny in their hands and make a living for themselves.
Honestly this play paints the gory image of what is happening in some families, men believe that they are the head and rightly so, but there are occasions when the choices of the men are doing great harm to the family; not only to the general family but to the man himself.
In our text today, Moses was being negligent and that slothful attitude was going to ruin not only his own life but turn the word of God to be of no effect. If Moses died at that point Zipporah and her children will be lost in a battle they never prepared for. They had already left the comfort of her father’s home and I am bold to add that they would have sold up their assets as they ventured into the next level of God’s assignment for them.
What was the issue? Zipporah was told by Moses that the God to whom he belonged had a covenant with his race that required that every male child should be circumcised at the age of eight days.
Zipporah - So, honey when will you do it?
Moses – I will do it Tomorrow. I tried to reach the man that sells the flint knife but his number was not going.
Moses comes back from work and Zipporah reminds him but he replies, “I will do it later, I am tired now?
Two weeks later he comes home and shares an account of how he met the God of his fathers and how He instructed him about the new ministry they were to start.
Zipporah - Honey, this means we need to circumcise Junior right away
Moses - Let me share the story with your father first and hear what he has to say. Then I will do it
A month after they are packing to move to Egypt where they have to confront all the gods of Egypt in open show of superior power.
Zipporah - Honey, this level of ministry will be demanding, why not you circumcise Junior now so we give no ground to the devil?
Moses - Baby Zip, thanks for reminding me but you can see that if we circumcise him now, we have to wait for another month before we can move because the child will be in pains. So let’s move on and before we start sharing the fliers for our first crusade I will do it.
I have always stated that God is not going to help us run our ministry but is calling us to do His business. No one is indispensible to God; He is a God of purpose and has His standards. That God called you does not mean that He is stuck with you. God prepared to defend the covenant between Him and Abraham and the first enemy of that covenant God could find is no one but the one He sent and so …. the LORD met Moses and was about to kill him
In the culture they came from, it was the duty of the man to circumcise the son, but if Zipporah waited for this head to play the head then the family is doomed, so Zipporah played the head because that was the only way she could save her home and salvage the glorious destiny that was at the brink.
The bible made it very clear that wives should submit to their husbands in all things but thank God I am a man, so male folks will not see me as saying what I do not understand; we men can be stupid at times and it is sad to say that anointed men are not any different. Let me praise my wife again; a lady once said in my hearing that she wished her husband behaved like me. I giggled from the background when my wife said to her, “Things are not always the way we see it”. I can bet that lady will not endure me for a year. How many times have I taken decisions that put my family in financial embarrassment in my obsession to help “Poor and Needy”? There are occasions all I have to thank is my wife who technically blocked a decision I made at impulse, and oh boy, I do that often.
There is this account also when Nabal the husband of Abigail let loose his tongue to abuse a warlord and general who had killed giants and conquered great armies of many nations. Against common sense Nabal called David a runaway slave and sat down to drink himself to stupor. Thank God a servant heard him and reported to Abigail. Again the nom demanded that Abigail should consult the head of the family before giving such elaborate gifts to David and his men, especially because her husband had said NO earlier. But if she obeyed the rules her whole family and estate would have been consumed in the wrath of David and his four hundred deadly and hungry army. She went ahead to save her family and then explained later to her husband. (1 Sam25)
Pilate would have gone to the judgment throne from his girl friend’s house, otherwise, why was it that his wife could not tell him her dream before he left the house? Who knows of how many days he had not reached the house, but it is obvious he respected his wife’s spirituality and her ability to receive messages from her dream. Some women will be grinding in anger and then Plate will soil his hands with the righteous blood of Jesus. Some theologians won’t accept this, but the fact is that Pilate and his home was innocent of Jesus’ blood because he washed his hand before Jesus was killed.
Woman, I advise you to submit to your husband in all things because God is the head of the man and man is the head of the woman, but when you are sure “Oga” is about to ruin himself and the entire family, play the head.
Become ZIPPORAH and ABIGAIL, you can explain later.
Emma your brother @PNUR